An Anti-Bullying, Finding our Humanity & Decency Movement
For Elementary School Students
Are you being bullied?
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Are you being bullied? Or do you have a friend who is being bullied?
We want to help.
The first thing we want to say is we are sorry that you are dealing with a bully. It is hard. Sometimes it makes us scared. It makes everyone sad. Many people, like me, have felt sad because of being bullied sometime in their life. That is why I created this site. My name is Dean and I was bullied too. I also saw some friends being bullied. It is not right. But we have all learned that things do get better.
Sometimes bullies do not know how bad their actions are. You probably do. You probably would not hurt another person on purpose. You care about other people. You have what is called “empathy”. This means that you understand what other people feel. You care about their feelings. This is a sign of intelligence.
Some children need more time to develop empathy. They need to learn to care for other people. Some children have not developed this kind of intelligence as quick as you.
Caring for other people is a wonderful thing. it is much more important than how fast you run. It is more important than how nice your hair is. It is more important than being strong or being pretty. It is more important than how fast you learn math. Or english. The world is a better place because of the people who care. Like you.
If a child calls you names, try not to feel bad. You are beautiful. Some children still need to learn.
So what can you do if you are being bullied?
Use your voice: Speak up!
Speak up to the bully.
Do not get mad and say something mean like the bully does. If you do, the bully may blame you.
Tell the person that is acting like a bully that their words/actions make you feel bad. Ask them to please stop with a brave voice. If they do it again, repeat what you told them. Tell them again that their words make you feel bad. Ask them to please stop again with same brave voice.
After you tell the bully to please stop, if he or she continues, walk away. Do not stay and keep talking. Just leave. If the bully continues just ignore him or her. Do not show interest. Do not act upset or sad. If you tell them to stop, and then ignore them, many bullies will get bored and quit bothering you. If leaving is not an option, or you feel it is not the best option, a phone can be a good tool. If you have a phone, use it to send a text message, or make a phone call. By using the phone you are showing that you are no longer giving them attention and are no longer interested in what they are saying. But you must not argue with them. Just say to stop and that is all.
If you do this some children will stop and leave you alone. Some will continue.
Speak up to an adult.
If a bully will not leave you alone, then you must speak up to an adult. Tell your mom and dad if you can. Tell your teacher or school counselor, that you are being bullied and ask for help. This is not being a tattle- tale. You will help the bully learn it is not okay to act that way.
When you tell an adult , you must tell everything that is happening so they understand. You may feel shy. You may feel embarrassed. But you must say everything that the bully is doing so the adults will understand and help you. You can do it! Be brave. Speak up!!
Write it down.
Write down what the bully is saying and doing to you. Sometimes it is hard to talk and explain things. It can be easier if you write it down. Include all the details. Where did it happen? What time? Give a copy to the appropriate teacher or counselor or administrator who is helping you. Have your parents or guardian help you write what the bully is doing if possible.
Some bullies do not just call people names. Some bullies even hit or push or threaten other kids. The law does not allow for this. If you are pushed, or hit, or threatened, leave the situation quickly if possible. Again, immediately contact your parents or guardian. Let the school know that you were attacked by a fellow student.
Use the buddy system.
If a bully will not leave you alone then try to stay with a friend as much as possible. Do not be alone where no one else is around, like the bathroom, hallway, bus or outside.
If you see someone else being bullied, you should also remember: Speak up!
Tell the bully to please stop. If the bully continues tell an adult.
Thank you, JoJo Siwa. Such a great song and video. The perfect attitude! We are dancing to your music!
Make new friends.
Sometimes it is hard to make new friends. Especially if you are shy. So how do you do this? A great way to make new friends is through a school club or a sport. What do you enjoy? Ask your teacher if there is a club or sport you can participate in. Ask your parents to help find the right club for you. It is easier to make friends when you are in the same group. You will share a connection from the beginning. We all need friends. Maybe you have some good ones. Still, make some new ones. It helps.
Here is another idea. Does your school have a club to stop bullying or to help others? Find out. Ask your teacher.
If not, ask to start one. The school can help you. Maybe your parents can help you too. This will help other children also.
We can also help you if you want. We support LIFT Clubs. LIFT clubs help students support each other and make a better school. If you would like to start a LIFT club at your school talk to your teachers or counselor and let us know. We will help you! For more information about LIFT, click here.
We are sorry that you are being bullied. It is hard. You may feel sad. This is normal. Many people have had to deal with a bully. Even famous people. Here are a few. Click here for bullied celebrities.
You are strong. You are beautiful. The bullying will stop and it will get better.
If we can help you further, contact us.
We are here to help.
Have you seen someone being bullied?
Have you ever seen someone at school being bullied? You probably have.
I remember when I was in elementary school. There was a boy who went to school with me. He was overweight and other kids would call him names. They would call him fat and other names. Sometimes they would hit him. It made me sad. I wish I had tried to help this boy. I should have told the other kids to stop. But I did not. Now I know what I should have done.
Do you know what to do if you see someone being bullied?
Yes, if you feel safe, you should tell them to stop!
If you do not feel safe, tell an adult.
Thank you to NAB and The Alannah and Madeline Foundation for this moving short video.
Sometimes other children will call you a "snitch" or a "tattle-tale" or another name if you let an adult know.
With a brave voice, just say it is not okay to hurt other people. Ask them if they like to hurt other people.
If you are brave and strong, most children will stop because they know they are wrong.
Last, reach out to the kids who are alone. The ones who need a friend. A kind word. A smile. It is not too hard to show you care.
Talk to your friends. Tell them to support you and be strong with you. It is easier when friends support each other. Remember, never be a bully also. Just be brave! One brave person can change everything.
Glenn Colton - "Speak Up, Reach Out, and Be a Friend."
You can change someone's life by following this song's advice.
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Thank you Sophia Grace and Silento for reminding us we must always like ourselves. Great song!
Thank you, Khari, for this beautiful song and video.